When your in a relationship arguments are going to happen and come up. It’s how you handle it which determines the outcome of everything. Usually I would give advice but since me and my spouse have been getting into it lately I don’t have any. I just want to vent. Now my spouse is the love of my life, the one I’m always excited to see… most days. But lately we’ve been arguing over tge dumbest things. When I leave to go somewhere and it takes longer, way longer than I expected he gets upset because now his schedule is thrown off. Granted I understand as if I didn’t have other things to do also that threw a wrench into my own plans. But he lashes out as if it’s completely my fault. I have realized when it is other people involved things don’t always go as plan.
For instance, during Christmas I went to a brunch with his family just the girls. This was my first time going and I didn’t get a lot of info. We had just moved in with his family and this was my first outing since I was bed ridden for 6 weeks so I was excited. But what I didn’t know is that we were going to be gone for about 4 to 6 hours. He was heated, but what could I do I rode with someone else and it’s his family. Another instance was today, a quick spur of the moment trip to Baton Rouge came up for my hair that I needed to get done before my trip and wedding in a couple of weeks. To my assumption it was going to be come in, try on, dye, style, and leave 2 to 3 hours maxed. But unfortunately it didn’t happen that way. I also have to mention we only have one car and he has to watch our son. Do I wish I could do absolutely everything and never depend on anyone, of course but that’s not the case. And yet and still I’m the horrible person in the relationship for it. I learned a long time ago your time is not the same as other people time.
But all hope is not lost people there is still hope as long as communication is key in the relationship. Now even though I’m a lot heated I know that this too shall past. After we both calm down and actually hear what each other are saying we’ll eventually get back on track. Probably within 24 hours according to our track record. But no one knows your relationship better than you and if it’s that important to the both of you you’ll work it out. So my rant is over and I did kind of side a little bit of advice at the end.
Thanks for reading…. SimplyBetty101