Dear mom, instead of me telling you how hard it is and what a pain your kids are. I will just give you some motherly advice to combat all of those horrible moments your kids seem to never disappoint you on. BUY SOME WINE because we are in this for the long haul!!!!
Look motherhood is tough, simply put, but it is also rewarding…strangely. Here you have this person that either came from, you went through the process to select, or somehow you just became mom number two. However it happened just know it happened. Now this blog is not for those who like to actually get an enjoyment out of harming and abusing children. No this is for those mothers who nurture, love, cherish, and sacrifice for their children. You others I have other words for but that’s for another day. No this is for those who are just starting off or about to be introduced to mommy world.
First, breathe… just breathe it is going to be alright and you got this. Yes you have been hearing a lot of comments that tell you to buckle up, hope your ready, you won’t get any sleep, you poor baby, welcome to motherhood and the list goes on. But trust and believe me when I say you got this. Now will it be hard… yes, and not just some days a lot of days it will be. I mean a lot like majority of those days you will be shaking or scratching your head saying… “What the …,” . But it is all worth because for every bad moment directly after that or soon afterwards there is always something that comes over you and fills you love and happiness. Now that is an amazing feeling.
For example, I have a two-year old boy who has enough energy for LeBron James to play 10 full court games with 10 seconds break every hour. I mean the boy is relentless and just gets into everything. All day i can hear myself saying “stop, don’t do that, get down, slow down, get out of that, do you have to potty, why didn’t you say you had to potty, sit down, Rome, Rome, Rome, Oh No.” I call his name so much that he now repeats his name randomly and says “oh no,” behind it. But for every stop there is, “awe you’re so sweet, my big boy, so handsome, yeah big boy, you went to the potty, look stanka, awe you gave mommy some suga (kisses),” and I love it, You know what my child reminds me of, and most of you may agree. He reminds me of that sour patch commercial. One minute I just can’t take and then its but I love my baby. To tell you the truth I wouldn’t change him or anything about him for anything in the world. Sure I sometimes say, “I wish you would just sit down,” of course he doesn’t. But that’s my bundle of joy.
Look I only have one child so I can only imagine how others feel with multiples. Rather it’s boys, girls, boys and girls, or even multiples born together. In that case I would have a subscription for wine through Groupon. And yes those do exist. Now if you struggle with alcohol than wine is not for you. So in that case a good alternative could be yoga, meditation, exercise, girls night out once a week, date night, or whatever safe and fun you do to get that time to yourself. And yes I am aware that there are some of you that never get any time to yourself because you’re a stay at home mom (more power to you) or your schedule actually prevents you to take time for yourself. Well if your reading this blogs just maybe something you enjoy doing or reading period. If your always reading blogs and articles to help you get through your rough patch at the time then that is your time.
So before you back out of motherhood before you get started or have a panic attack thinking about what’s up ahead for you… breathe. Everyone’s story is different your story maybe smooth sailing at the beginning. For instance, you may never know what a sleepless night is or an overly energetic child is. Hey you may even have a very obedient child from the start. Congratulations, don’t bring your happiness around a suffering mother you just may likely get punched or envied. You have been warned so go in at your own risk. I’m just saying. You may have it easy now oh but watch out for those later years. Being a parent is a tricky period. You don’t want to be too harsh, too easy-going, too many rules, or not enough. Trying to find a balance will only come by trail and error and to throw another curve-ball in there not all children are the same. So you can’t treat or discipline all children the same just to get your point across. Even if their your own children. Yes you will have to cater your parenting to your child’s personality, mindset, and feelings. So yes being a mother will suck a lot of times but when you do it right the reward is so worth. Think, you actually get to mold a child into whatever you want rather it’s to be a leader or a follower in life. But that’s your job and accomplishment. You may not work for a company for 20 plus years but you be a parent for that long and longer. So all hope is not lost there are plenty of blogs, articles, and mom groups that can help you survive being a parent.
Thanks for reading… SimplyBetty101