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Being a Boss Even When You Don’t Feel Like It

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Being a stay at home mom, blogger, and you-tuber, can be exhausting and have its challenges.  Sometimes you just don’t feel like, staying in bed that day sounds and feels like a grand idea.  But what about your business, will it suffer because of this break?  Will you miss an important opportunity to grow? Why do you want to take a break in the first place?  And most important question is, if you push yourself through it will your body force you to break at a crucial time?  These are very important questions one must ask themselves especially when you’re not feeling as bossy that day.  Sure you can push through and take a break when it’s all said and done.  But how long will it take you to get to that point?  Is pushing through worth it?

As a person who just started, I can say that there are times where I’m just full steam ahead for my business.  I even try to shut the world out, but then I remember that I am also someone’s mother, a newlywed wife, and Lord knows that if I don’t clean my house the way I want it, it will just be a distraction from work.  For me working at home is really challenging.  I have my son running around, we just moved across 2 states into a new town and house, and not to mention that my husband also works from home.  So there are constant distractions.

Now this may just be me and I may just have a problem but for some reason I cannot get any work done when I know that there is laundry, dishes, and errands that need to be done.  I literally have to prep the house the day before in order to get work done.  As well as advise my husband who gets up way before me that I will be working late so therefore do not disturb.  And my son, well I just have to work that in all day until he goes to daycare in August.  My point is I have to schedule how my day is going beforehand so that I don’t get burned out.  Yes life throws curve-balls but for the most part I control my day.  So if I have been running around weeks on end and can feel my body shutting down, I schedule me time.  This is the most important thing to schedule.

Scheduling me time is a blessing.  It not only recharges you but it also gets you ready to be in full boss-mode at all times.  Think about, if you don’t schedule a girls night, date-night, day at the salon, go to the nail shop, or do whatever it is you enjoy doing that causes the least amount of stress.  Eventually your body will shut down for you.  And believe me no one wants that or to be around a depressing Patti.  Think about it, being a boss is really being able to juggle business life and personal life.  You have to be creative at all times and this will show your ingenuity.  This level of bossy-ness is fun for me because while my husband is exhausted from just one job I get to rub in his face that I am a Jack of all trades.  And the list of things that I have finished for the day is the icing on the cake.  Now, I’m not saying be a pain to your spouse because we know that there are some who do just as much.  But let’s be real, women do so much.  Even when we’re quiet and thinking.  LOL

All I’m saying is that in order to be a boss you have to delegate what is important and schedule everything else around that.  Even if your schedule changes or life changes.  Just breathe, think, and execute.  Believe me it will go a long way and you will be in boss-mode even longer and appreciate it more.

 

Thanks for reading… SimplyBetty101

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Transitioning….?

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What if your transitioning into a new you whether it’s for work, new home, parenthood, or just phasing out if the party life. What is now the new norm for you? What else fun is there to do that is more your speed?

I’m currently going through that transitioning as I type this up. Now that I am married, a parent, and focused more on my career of being my own boss. Things that use to interest me just don’t do it for me anymore. The fact that I am more excited to buy decor and furniture for our new place than for me to go out and party, is way more exciting. Like a kid in a candy store excited. Going to family events and being in a calm environment that’s more controlled and stable is wonderful. Don’t get me wrong I love a good turnup just like the next person but only on my own terms with like minded people as well. When you surround yourself with people that are also transitioning, you find that very similar bond and growth that you may just need. A support group. This also means new friends.

But if you can transition with those you have been friends with it can be an awesome feeling and experience. But if you can’t, don’t give up so easily. So just because you are now in a different space than those you cherish doesn’t mean you have to abandon them. Try coaching or encouraging them to get on your level or higher. You may be surprised at what you find. Sometimes people just need others to lead so that they can fall suit. Not all leaders start off as leaders and not all followers will stay followers.

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Dear Mr. Forever I Promise 2 You: My Vows

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Today is finally here, after 10 years of ups and downs, war wounds, and the greatest part of my life thus far. I just wanted to say that even though I have expressed and shown you love throughout the years writing this was a bit exciting.

There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about you even when we’re together. There’s not a day where I don’t get excited to hear your voice or to look into those dark brown eyes. You have pushed me, supported me, and cared for me at my lowest time. We have lost so much but gained more than we could ever imagine as a unit. Where most people would’ve just given in and wanted us to just move on from each other we stayed because we saw something in each other that no one else could.

Yes I nag and complain a lot but what girl who is spoiled doesn’t? And where would the fun be if I just complied to everything. And we both know that’s not my nature. You are my better half and challenge me to be my best. I love your selflessness and your ability to see the dream with me. On this special day 10 years ago I challenged you to tell me what this was and you answered well I guess we’re a relationsfip and ended the convoy with saying L word. Even then we knew that we loved each other and that this would be forever. As the song says you make me better… I love you…

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MY BLOG INTRODUCTION: WHY BLOG?

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Welcome to my website, you’re probably wondering why are you reading this? I mean it’s only an introduction blog or maybe your trying to get started on blogging yourself. Well instead of reading through all those different blogs that tell you it’s only a couple or simple steps to get started, let me tell you the truth. Now, if you’re into setting up a website and think it is easy or already have about 10 to 15 blogs written out and ready to go. Then yes, it is easy but what about the money to get it started, if you are like me your funds a limited; now there are a lot of articles and blogs out there that a free but to set up your domain and on a website like Bluehost it will cost you about a $100 give or take depending on which packet you select. Now if you chose WordPress to start a blog channel then yes that is free to sign up but there are add-ons that can cost a lil of your time to sign up for all those free accounts. Pretty soon you may forget what all you have signed up for and not remember usernames and passwords.

Ok, so you get through signing up and registering your account, now you must design your website…ugh… wait what. Unless you know someone or you yourself are an expert in creating a website it will take you a while to figure out what everything means and how you want it to look.

Alright so now you have your account registered, your website is done, and you even have some blogs posted now who and how are you going to get people to read your blogs. Well my friend if you have a social media account, I would start advertising on those. Such as Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, and even Pinterest; yes, Pinterest you would be surprise how much traffic you can get just from your social media outlets than you realize besides its free advertising. Not to mention that all those social media accounts can be changed into business accounts so that you can potentially earn money and make a living from your advice.

I know it seems like a lot but so is starting any business or hobby if it is for you than do it there is nothing stopping you besides you. So, what you may not get the overnight success that you see people getting on a daily basis. The fact that you worked hard and put in the work believe me it will pay off someday. Take me for instance I’m posting this information for you and a helpful guide and a truthful realization that nothing is easy and if it does come easy, be cautious. I love helping others but sometimes I think my advice is either solely for me or that others may not just understand me. It’s just the people around me daily is on a different level in life than I am and possibly the person that needs my knowledge is searching for it on the web. Hence is why I started my own blog. Now I didn’t read any blogs that told me that it’s going to take patience and a lot of work to get it started but the fact that when I got my website launched it was wonderful. Being able to express myself via writing (typing technically) is such a wonderful feeling for me it’s almost like an adrenaline rush for me.

Don’t get me wrong I’m not trying to discourage you in starting a blog I’m not even being endorsed to give you this advice. I’m just warning you the amount of time you would need to put into your venture. My blog for me is like a pressure release; your blog maybe more educational or entertaining whatever your niche is do it. Understanding your truth about yourself and going after it is just amazing, and I guarantee you that you would be so happy it’s ridiculous and people who are miserable around your will either help and strive for theirs or move on to someone else who is just as miserable.

Basically, when it comes to starting a blog you need to know what outcome you want people to get from your post, be passionate about it, and most importantly be prepared to put in the work. A blog is not something that can be setup and started in 30 mins if you are serious about it. I treat my blog like my job because presently it is a venture that I am interested in. But the content I post is true to myself and they are topics that I know a lot about rather its something from my past or present. Hope you guys enjoyed that venting session and don’t be discouraged be determined and focused.