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What I Wish I Knew…About College!!!!

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Ok so I know the semester has already started but there are just somethings I need to say. First, no one prepared me for the reality of college and what all it intelled. I was just thinking it was another form of high school just bigger. Boy was I mistaken.

I wish I was more mentally prepared for what was to come within the first semester alone. Because high school was so relaxed and I had my parents their to help with the slack. It was overwhelming when I was just thrown into the adult world. I didn’t have the skills on how to meditate and get use my critical thinking skills on such short notice. But I quickly learned. Networking was another mental hurdle I had to overcome. Getting to know my professors, department head, chancellors, counselors, and upper classmen, was vital for my survival in college.

Another concept trait I wish I had was responsibility. Being in high school and younger my parents were always there. The moment I went to college I found out very quickly that all responsibilities were now on me. Everything from grades, student loans, financial aid, and a slue of other things. I had to learn that no one was going to pick up where I was slacking nor check me when I needed it.

Speaking of financial aid and student loans. I didn’t understand the full capacity of loans and what they really meant. I just thought it was money given to cover tuition and that was it. I was definitely not expecting to pay so much back. If I understood that, I would’ve taken out so much or just looked to alternatives as far as school and career choices.

Next, big thing was my major which at first was business management. Then I learned and was forced that this major is not my cup of tea. Luckily, I found out within 2 years before I graduated with pathetic grades and just slipped through the cracks. So I ended up changing my major to history something that I was way more interested in and enjoyed. Choosing a major was a huge critical decision I had to make on my own. Instead of choosing a major that my parents had partaken I chose something that I loved.

Finally, I wished that I had explored more in all those hobbies and interests. Just to say that I attempted and that was checked off my bucket list. Rather it was fashion, hair, careers, preference in sex, everyone around me was exploring different aspects of life except for me because I wanted to stay with the norm. Or what I thought and possibly my friends and family thought was the norm. I just should’ve shook off those nerves and jumped.

But all things turn out the way they are suppose to in life and I truly have I regrets about college. Even the chances that I didn’t take, who knows I probably would’ve been one of those out of control people that did something extremely stupid. Thus suffering from the consequences of those decisions for the rest of my life.

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Over-staying Your Welcome

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So today I was wondering how long have I been here at my cousins house? Even though I’m only staying here to find a place for my own family, I was hoping that it would be a quick 2 to 3 day stay. But thinking on it I have been here a full 7 day week. Though I know she doesn’t mind I feel like I’m being a leech. Which is why I hope she never sees this post…lol the amount of killer eye she will give me is undeniable.

Look I appreciate the help and guidance but if I was in her position there is a limit for me. Now by no means am I one if those family members who doesn’t help nor clean up behind themselves. I have been fussed at for cleaning the kitchen and putting a trash bag in the trash can. Not that is was a real “don’t touch nothing,” her house is ran under certain rules. Also not to mention she is a bit OCD, she likes things done a certain way. And this is where my understanding comes in.

If it were me I do appreciate the help and love the company but at some point I would want to get back to my regular scheduled program of how I like my house ran. Children are still in school here which means they have rules on a daily basis and one cannot come in and throw off that schedule. One must be in stealth mode at all times and go with the flow. All while trying not to upset the balance of everyday life. And still be comfortable to do what I need for my family as well. I like the idea of being in the house with a kitchen that has love and laughter. But I also know that it is not my house and this is what I’m looking for. I love the uncoditional love and support my family provides but there comes a time when a girl just wants some alone time. Especially before hubby gets here.

So with that being said, people if you are staying with a friend or relative please understand body language and don’t over stay your welcome. Especially if your able to stay somewhere else. Now if you are in desperate need, then your circumstances are different. But please be less of a burden as possible. And if you just have that family that loves company then this does not apply to you as well. As always thanks for reading … SimplyBetty101

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ROAD TO CAREER: FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS

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So, your bored with your everyday life and you’re wondering have you wasted your life away? Well have you? I can say that I have been working since high school and I have worked in the food industry, retail, and even insurance but those are nothing compared to what I really want to do. I can honestly say out of all those different jobs there was only one where I really felt like I belonged; and that sector was a nonprofit museum that I worked for while in school getting my bachelors. The fact that I was able to learn so much about history and different arts that were just amazing it really didn’t feel like a nonprofit, but I was also able to learn a lot about how to run a nonprofit and the benefits of having such a magnificent attribute to the community.

So now that your thinking about it, you can see that there’s nothing really challenging you to the point where you’re doing your best every day. So, you’re just wasting your life away letting time go by and allowing someone else to live out your dreams. Short of, see you can have competition you just need to know what your niche is. Now I can go into a long ordeal about doing what makes you happy and you should be working towards that vision of yours and not complain about life because you’re not doing anything. But I’m not, you know that speech and you’ve heard that speech so me pounding it into your head is not going to make a difference if others have done so and failed. But I will give you some tips.

Now there is nothing that is hard if you put your mind to it and your heart. Sure, there will be some fails along the way, but they will be worth it, believe me. To help put things into perspective you can create a vision board like the video that I did — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pk5GcPDtOTM – to help move things along. Now that you know your niche and even maybe the plan you will have to make that career a reality let’s get busy. You will have to stay focused, your career will be the most important thing in your life that you are pursuing for a while even if you have children. Because like most parents your career is going to fund the comfortable life that you want for your family and to be honest that will sometimes intel missing games and special moments with your family. But and yes there is a but, is this gamble of driven and focused attention the best action for your life and family if that pertains to you?

Now there can’t be all work and no play, you will burn out and that my friend is where the balanced life comes in. You will have to commit enough time and effort towards your career but also towards your family. Now if you do not have a family and it’s just you congrats you are in the stage of being plan out selfish. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. For example, the day I left for college my dad looked at me and told me that I don’t have kids and it’s just me so therefore it is ok to be selfish. See from the age eight all the way up unto I left for college my world evolved around my siblings and helping my parents out. Did I always like it, not, but it did give me a sense that I didn’t want children any time soon and I wanted to enjoy my new-found freedom! And so selfish I was for about eight years lol and I have no regrets.

Now though I was not doing my purpose in life during those years, I can say I was building my character to become the person I needed to be. I also understood that everything happens for a reason and things will happen in its season. Let me repeat… EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON AND IN ITS OWN SEASON. Now if your career was to run a fortune 500 company in your 30s and up, do you really think you may have been very responsible to handle a position in your 20s. I’ll let you think about that for a moment… see even if you have always known what you wanted to do and have worked so damn hard for. It will only come to you when you are completely ready for it; because think about it, how many times have you gotten what you thought was a blessing to then lose it and wonder why it fell apart. That’s because you weren’t ready for it.

Now that you have a better understanding for life you can turn that hard work and patience into a slight relief. Notice I said slight. Have you heard the saying the same thing it took to get her is the same thing it takes to keep her? Well if you haven’t you just did and if you have you know that it mostly applied to you working to keep your spouse. But why not apply it that concept to life? Besides your vision and dreams requires just the same amount of attention if not more.

So basically, don’t give up and keep working at it you never know the very thing you may be striving for may just be the bottom line for you. Just imagine there may be even more blessings and gifts for you that you can’t even imagine right now. Just keep the positive attitude and remember…everything happens for a reason and in its own season.

Thanks… SimplyBetty101