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To My Son: The Promises I Make to You

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As father’s day draws near and the day that you will once again be in my arms; I just wanted to take the time to write this. If over the years you feel discourage in my capabilities as a mother to you. Or you feel at any point I have failed you. Know that I did my best and most importantly I LOVE You more than anything the universe could ever offer me. Everything that I accomplished in life is nothing compared to bringing you into this world. Even though this world will do a lot of damage, please never give up and remember all the good things in life. Especially, those who truly love you… God and your parents. Yes, there will be times where you question everything in life. But I promise there is always light after the darkness. With that being said…

I will promise to do my best at all times to being a great parent to you.
I promise to provide you with what you need and strive for what you want.
I promise to be your backup when you are in the right and just.
I promise to guide you when you are lost.
I promise to protect your heart and soul from the evils of the world until you are strong enough to guard them yourself.
I promise to love you until the end of time.
I promise to give you the tools you need to survive and strive and conquer the world.

To my baby boy, my third pregnancy, my first born, to my blessing, I most importantly promise to be your mom.

Love Always,
Mom

Thanks for reading…. SimplyBetty101

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Random Thought…JUMP and Take the RISK

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Why are you so scared to jump? Starting something new isn’t going to be easy and you may not have the support that you are used to. But ask yourself these questions

1. What can you sacrifice?
2. Can you live with that decision?
3. What scares you about this decision?
4. Is it worth your happiness for the rest of your life/ is the decision based on the betterment for you?

Yes, taking a leap of faith on yourself to pursue something that has always been a dream is scary and maybe dangerous. But do you want to be one of those people who always wondered what life would’ve been like? Or do you want to say I tried and conquered. Or maybe you didn’t conquer but it took you on a different route to satisfaction. No one can decide your life but yourself. And yes you may lose those you hold and cherish, but if they cannot support or understand, did they really cherish you? Don’t be surprise if those you look up such as family, best friend, or even ideals walk away or discourage you. Everything will come full circle and life will proceed with or without them. Look even if you’re doing things to help others, wouldn’t you be in a better position to help those if you were happy?

Think about it….SimplyBetty101

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Over-staying Your Welcome

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So today I was wondering how long have I been here at my cousins house? Even though I’m only staying here to find a place for my own family, I was hoping that it would be a quick 2 to 3 day stay. But thinking on it I have been here a full 7 day week. Though I know she doesn’t mind I feel like I’m being a leech. Which is why I hope she never sees this post…lol the amount of killer eye she will give me is undeniable.

Look I appreciate the help and guidance but if I was in her position there is a limit for me. Now by no means am I one if those family members who doesn’t help nor clean up behind themselves. I have been fussed at for cleaning the kitchen and putting a trash bag in the trash can. Not that is was a real “don’t touch nothing,” her house is ran under certain rules. Also not to mention she is a bit OCD, she likes things done a certain way. And this is where my understanding comes in.

If it were me I do appreciate the help and love the company but at some point I would want to get back to my regular scheduled program of how I like my house ran. Children are still in school here which means they have rules on a daily basis and one cannot come in and throw off that schedule. One must be in stealth mode at all times and go with the flow. All while trying not to upset the balance of everyday life. And still be comfortable to do what I need for my family as well. I like the idea of being in the house with a kitchen that has love and laughter. But I also know that it is not my house and this is what I’m looking for. I love the uncoditional love and support my family provides but there comes a time when a girl just wants some alone time. Especially before hubby gets here.

So with that being said, people if you are staying with a friend or relative please understand body language and don’t over stay your welcome. Especially if your able to stay somewhere else. Now if you are in desperate need, then your circumstances are different. But please be less of a burden as possible. And if you just have that family that loves company then this does not apply to you as well. As always thanks for reading … SimplyBetty101

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Moving In and On: House and Career Dreams

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Looking for a change in life? Rather you’re looking to transition to a beautiful new home, career, or both remember not all transitions are easy. And not all will be on your timeline either. Don’t get discourage. Look at it as a challenge or hurdle that you have to move out of your way.

Not every door will open when you want it to and not all doors lead you to where you expect. Somethings have to be taken with a blind leap of faith and persistence. Think of life as a child that doesn’t listen all of the time. With children you will have to have the patience of a person who has all the time in the world and have your anger in check at all times. Plus you also have to keep explaining and instructing children to do what you need. The same rules apply to your potential home or career. Children are put into our lives to test us and the world has the same code of life. It’s all just a test that you will ace. Yes you may have to take the test multiple times until you pass it but you’ll get there. So don’t be discourage when someone is trying to block a blessing from you. Remember whatever is for you no man can take from you no matter how hard they try.

Thanks for reading… SimplyBetty101

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Tech “NO” Relationships

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In today’s society it’s so easy to meet new people and learn everything about them at the tip of your fingertips. But how well can you really get to know a person by reading their life story online instead of connecting with them on an intimate level once you meet them? Are we so disconnected socially that relationships are only composed of causal friendships and one night stands? Think about the last relationship you had. Did you spend more time communicating and keeping up with your partner electronically? Once you were with that person did you only have a short intimacy and then were consumed with tv and electronics? If you’re answering yes to most of these questions then your next relationship will be completely different after reading this.

Here are a couple of things you can try the next time you are around friends and family just to do a trail run to see how things go. Your next gathering instead of everyone having access to their phones ask them to put their phones on silent and enjoy a wine tasting or meet and greet. Now your probably wondering why you would do a meet and greet with family and friends of people you already know. But do you know them based on the info from online or them telling you directly? Having a meal with friends and family to talk about things that are happening that week or that have already happened gives you a sense of how people really feel. This also enhances your abilities to read body language and gauge people emotions. You can express thoughts without someone taking it in a text the wrong way. Being connected mentally to a person allows you to understand people on a level that you can never get electronically.

Now your probably saying that you’re not always on your phone. But seriously you do. You know how I know you do? Because either you or someone in the group is always posting online for the world to see how much fun your having. But why does it matter to the world of how much fun you have? See we’re so consumed with what everyone is doing on a constant basis that we miss the real life connections and experience right in front of us. Think about it, how many missing persons photos do you come across on your timeline? How many people you know even as young as 5 years old don’t have cellphones? How do we miss the creepy person that has been following you for the last 3 or 4 stores? Or the kid that may just be a little overweight because they rather play video games or be on electronics than to go outside? It’s because we have decided that all the info we need is via online even a person that you have never met. The first thing people do is look up that persons social media account; rather its Instagram, Facebook, twitter (maybe not), or Snapchat. How many blind dates have you been on and when you met the person they were nothing like their profile? People can create so many lies and catfish others into believing that lie. But if we sharpened our communication skills outside of our electronics then there wouldn’t be such a disconnect.

Meeting people on a social level can be exciting and thrilling. You will be surprised on how well your communication skills have developed. That fright that you have standing up for yourself can disappear. Giving a speech that you wrote out so perfectly wouldn’t be so hard if your social skills were better. The next blind date that you go won’t be so nerve-racking if you are able to read that person’s body language. You may be able to tell if they are actually into you instead checking their social media every few seconds. Knowing if a person just wants a causal relationship or if they actually want a more deep and serious relationship is helpful.

So next date or family and friend event you have. Make a rule of no phones unless it’s an emergency or you can say that no post can be posted. Whatever the rule is to make the day or event a more tech “no” night….lol. Believe me it’s beneficial for everyone involved. You may also find out that you don’t like people who you call friends as much as you thought you did. Or it may draw you closer. Remember secrets and personal info should never be shared over any type of electronic device, that’s called evidence. Look all I’m saying is that it is nice to get to know a person for who they really are, not who they want to be via social media. You can be catfished even if you have known that person for years. People can change over time. If it’s your spouse have date night without electronics. You can do dinner, bike rides, fair/carnival, or even walks together. Ask each other about short-term and long-term goals. What is their aspiration? What is your aspiration? Just remember this instead of always trying to capture the moment, be in the moment. The world does not always have to know.

Thanks for reading…..SimplyBetty101

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ROAD TO CAREER: FINDING YOUR HAPPINESS

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So, your bored with your everyday life and you’re wondering have you wasted your life away? Well have you? I can say that I have been working since high school and I have worked in the food industry, retail, and even insurance but those are nothing compared to what I really want to do. I can honestly say out of all those different jobs there was only one where I really felt like I belonged; and that sector was a nonprofit museum that I worked for while in school getting my bachelors. The fact that I was able to learn so much about history and different arts that were just amazing it really didn’t feel like a nonprofit, but I was also able to learn a lot about how to run a nonprofit and the benefits of having such a magnificent attribute to the community.

So now that your thinking about it, you can see that there’s nothing really challenging you to the point where you’re doing your best every day. So, you’re just wasting your life away letting time go by and allowing someone else to live out your dreams. Short of, see you can have competition you just need to know what your niche is. Now I can go into a long ordeal about doing what makes you happy and you should be working towards that vision of yours and not complain about life because you’re not doing anything. But I’m not, you know that speech and you’ve heard that speech so me pounding it into your head is not going to make a difference if others have done so and failed. But I will give you some tips.

Now there is nothing that is hard if you put your mind to it and your heart. Sure, there will be some fails along the way, but they will be worth it, believe me. To help put things into perspective you can create a vision board like the video that I did — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pk5GcPDtOTM – to help move things along. Now that you know your niche and even maybe the plan you will have to make that career a reality let’s get busy. You will have to stay focused, your career will be the most important thing in your life that you are pursuing for a while even if you have children. Because like most parents your career is going to fund the comfortable life that you want for your family and to be honest that will sometimes intel missing games and special moments with your family. But and yes there is a but, is this gamble of driven and focused attention the best action for your life and family if that pertains to you?

Now there can’t be all work and no play, you will burn out and that my friend is where the balanced life comes in. You will have to commit enough time and effort towards your career but also towards your family. Now if you do not have a family and it’s just you congrats you are in the stage of being plan out selfish. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. For example, the day I left for college my dad looked at me and told me that I don’t have kids and it’s just me so therefore it is ok to be selfish. See from the age eight all the way up unto I left for college my world evolved around my siblings and helping my parents out. Did I always like it, not, but it did give me a sense that I didn’t want children any time soon and I wanted to enjoy my new-found freedom! And so selfish I was for about eight years lol and I have no regrets.

Now though I was not doing my purpose in life during those years, I can say I was building my character to become the person I needed to be. I also understood that everything happens for a reason and things will happen in its season. Let me repeat… EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON AND IN ITS OWN SEASON. Now if your career was to run a fortune 500 company in your 30s and up, do you really think you may have been very responsible to handle a position in your 20s. I’ll let you think about that for a moment… see even if you have always known what you wanted to do and have worked so damn hard for. It will only come to you when you are completely ready for it; because think about it, how many times have you gotten what you thought was a blessing to then lose it and wonder why it fell apart. That’s because you weren’t ready for it.

Now that you have a better understanding for life you can turn that hard work and patience into a slight relief. Notice I said slight. Have you heard the saying the same thing it took to get her is the same thing it takes to keep her? Well if you haven’t you just did and if you have you know that it mostly applied to you working to keep your spouse. But why not apply it that concept to life? Besides your vision and dreams requires just the same amount of attention if not more.

So basically, don’t give up and keep working at it you never know the very thing you may be striving for may just be the bottom line for you. Just imagine there may be even more blessings and gifts for you that you can’t even imagine right now. Just keep the positive attitude and remember…everything happens for a reason and in its own season.

Thanks… SimplyBetty101