So I’m in a book club and the conversation about how women treat each other came up. Basically, asking are you a bully or a protector? And most of us realized that we were taught to be tough either by strong female presence growing up or we fell victim to a strong female. We are all products of our environments and most of the time our environments are unintentionally teaching us to be mean girls.
For instance, for me growing up all I saw females being vindictive towards each other and seeing what pain we could inflict on each other. It wasn’t until my mom remarried and I actually got to see togetherness and empowerment from other women towards me. Not to mention the unconditional love. As I went off to college I had to learn how to redefine what empowerment was not just for myself but to others around me.
It’s not easy to undo impressionable years of hate but with good intentions and better surroundings we can do anything we set our minds to. Especially women, at times and throughout history we are the most mistreated beings on earth. But also the most forgiving. Remembering the pain and inflection that we went through. It’s sad to see all the brokenness and struggle that we as women go through internally but it’s even more amazing to see the transformation. The concept of being a better person or better woman in that matter it can be difficult.
I mean is it just me or does the universe intentionally try you when you’re trying to be a better woman. It never fails every time I have a good talk or great women empowerment get togethers it’s like the universe says hold on ba boo-ski let me try your ratchet side. And I have to do a countdown in my head to try and not snatch the woman who is trying me that day. But hey we are all human and mistakes happen and we have to decide in that moment that we are better than that person trying to bring out the ratchetness in you. But I’m trying and so should you. Don’t let these crazies knock you off your horse and knock off your crown. Be better, look better, act better, and know better because you are better and they are just jealous. And we all know misery loves company.
